5 Painless Ways to be a Submissive Wife

    Are you a seeker of adventure and excitement yet your marriage stalled or become routine? How would you feel about attempting something new in your approach to being a wife? 

"Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord" 

    Ephesians 5: 22 is a very familiar verse but the thought of being a submissive wife causes heart palpitations, sweaty hands, and produces nightmares in many women, and not without reasons. It sets us up to be hurt and that vulnerability can be life threatening in certain circumstances.

    If your husband is an abusive man to begin with, this is not your best arena, so forget it. There are laws that protect women against abuse and an abused woman needs to utilize all the necessary help she can to keep herself and/or her children safe.

    But if you are free in an non-abusive marriage and want to attempt to be submissive, this is a good way to respect your husband’s ability to maintain his position as husband, (he is Keeper of the garden—the Garden that’s you) Try these simple actions and he may not even notice what you’ve done. But go ahead; secretly enjoy your new status. You could be pleasantly surprised at the difference in your marriage. You can do one of these a week, or all in one day, but challenge yourself if the submissive wife is an area you’ve never explored before.

1. Speak kindly to him in the morning. Sometime before you part for the day, or begin your daily routine, say something nice about him or to him.

·       I like that shirt/tie/shoes/suit/blue jeans…

·       You like him shaved/or like his whiskers

·       Remark with praise about something he did previously

2. If he frequently misplaces items, do not remind him. If it is an object he often loses put it somewhere he can easily find it. If he asks where something is, without any fuss, tell him, or get it for him.

3. Does he have a favorite snack? Buy it for him once a week. Or cook him a favorite meal. Men may not let on about certain things that please them but a wife can usually coax it out with a favorite food. If you’ve been married for any length of time, you’ll recognize when he is well pleased. Foods can draw out his nicer nature.

4. Touch him in passing, just a small brush on his arm on the way by. If you pass where he’s sitting, give him a pat on the head. If he asks or looks at you, just smile, shrug, or laugh a little. Don’t make a big deal out of it but as your husband, he does belong to you, so make a point of connecting.

5. Say something kind to him before going to bed.

·       Good night, Love/Honey/His name.

·       Sleep well.

·       Thank you for hanging up your coat, putting the towel in the hamper, etc….

   

    As you continue to look to development of his husbandry work in your life, (Keeper of the garden—the Garden that’s you), after a while, the considerate remarks will become easier to say, and you’ll become more diversified in your acts of kindness.

    But don’t get discouraged if there’s no recordable change in your husband. Don’t get hung up if he doesn’t pay any attention to what you’re doing, the benefits to being a submissive wife are not always in changing him but the attitude change in you. In a while, you should notice a better state of mind in yourself and it shouldn’t hurt you, him, your family, or your marriage at all.

    If you went into your marriage considering it a two-way contract, than submissiveness was never an option. That does not mean you can’t add this aspect to it now. Even the challenge may give you the excitement to try it. After all, if excitement is what you want in your relationship, a secret drama can give you the spark you need.